My Approach

Hello! If you're reading this, you're likely looking for a way to feel better, whether in your relationship or within yourself. You might be hoping for practical strategies, a deeper understanding of your patterns, or simply a safe space to be heard.

My approach is all about empowering you with exactly that. I believe in working holistically—which means we consider all parts of your life—while staying focused on your goals and the solutions we can build together. Think of me as a guide, helping you uncover your own strengths and develop a personalised toolkit for healing and connection.

How We Might Work Together

I draw from several counselling methods, blending them to fit what you need most. Don't worry about the technical names; what matters is what they can do for you.

For Couples: Repairing and Strengthening Your Bond

When communication breaks down, it can feel like you're stuck on a hamster wheel, having the same argument over and over. Using principles from the Gottman Method (a practical, research-backed approach for couples), we work on:

Turning Towards Each Other: Learning to see your partner's bids for connection, like a comment about their day, as an opportunity to grow closer, not apart.

Fighting Smarter: Managing disagreements so they lead to understanding instead of leaving you both feeling hurt and alone.

Rebuilding Friendship: Rediscovering the joy and admiration that brought you together in the first place.

For Individuals: Understanding Your Past to Free Your Present

Sometimes we feel anxious, stuck, or critical of ourselves without knowing why. Often, these patterns have roots in our earlier experiences. Using Inner Child Healing and Attachment Therapy, we can gently:

Comfort Old Wounds: Imagine learning to soothe that part of you that felt insecure or unheard long ago, so it stops influencing your reactions today.

Change Your Inner Dialogue: Transforming a critical inner voice ("I'm not good enough") into a kinder, more supportive one.

Break the Cycle: Understanding why you choose certain partners or react in specific ways, so you can make different, healthier choices.

Your Personalised Toolkit

Every person is unique, so your therapy should be too. Beyond my main styles, I'm trained in other methods to ensure we have the right tools for your journey. This might include:

Practical Strategies (CBT): Learning to catch and challenge unhelpful thoughts that spike your anxiety or bring your mood down.

Focusing on What Works (SFBT): Identifying your existing strengths and resources to quickly build solutions.

Exploring the Bigger Picture (Jungian/Gestalt): Using dreams, creativity, or exploring feelings in the moment to gain deeper self-awareness.

No matter what tools we use, you can expect our sessions to be a safe, collaborative, and non-judgmental space where you are always the expert of your own life.

Kind Words from Clients

"We had the pleasure of meeting and getting to know Fabian as our Counsellor. From the get go, he checked in on what our needs were and developed a concise plan for our goals. Fabian shows great commitment in getting to understand every couple's unique situation and does a fantastic job in providing resources. You can see the genuine empathy, kindness, and passion for helping people that Fabian applies to his practice. We are grateful to have bettered our understanding of each other and our relationship through working with Bird House Counselling."

Let's Start Building Your Toolkit Together

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